June 23, 2020

Why do I need a wedding rehearsal and who should be there?

When it comes to weddings, rehearsals are just a part of it. Typically no one questions this element of your big day, you just do it because you know it’s important and it’s what most people do. Well, if you’ve ever wondered why rehearsals are so important and contribute to the efficiency (and sanity) of the day, read on. I also want to touch on another big question that I’ve been asked: “who should be there?”

First thing’s first: Why have a wedding rehearsal?

If you’re not married yourself, you’ve probably either been in a wedding or been to a wedding at least once in your life.

They seem pretty straightforward to you, music plays, the wedding party walks on cue, everyone stands to marvel at the bride as she makes her way down the aisle, etc.


Why does that need to be rehearsed? Yes, in most cases it is pretty straightforward but often people don’t account for how nervous they’ll feel on the day of the wedding. Whether it’s a small ceremony or a large one, all eyes on you can feel nerve-wracking. Maybe you unintentionally start walking a little too fast instead of staying in pace with the music (been there, done that!)

Rehearsals provide that peace of mind to the bride and groom, and their parents, and iron out any kinks so everyone feels comfortable and knows when to walk and where to stand on the day of the event! This is especially important if you have young children in your ceremony, who tend to feel a little stage fright when all eyes are on them.


Furthermore, you may have something special in mind for your ceremony that isn’t typical so it’s important that expectations are established and everyone knows what they’re supposed to do so the day goes as smoothly as possible. Weddings are multifaceted and can be complex, and the less you have the worry about, the better! While it doesn’t have to be a big ordeal, I always recommend at least a small rehearsal where you run through it at least once. In the end, my goal is for your ceremony to feel (and look) smooth and effortless.



Okay, so we’ve established why rehearsals are important, but who should come to the rehearsal?

It is most important for the VIP’s to be there. That is the Very Important People of your wedding day: the wedding party & the parents. If your officiant can make it, great! But I would not consider this a deal-breaker.

To my earlier point, if you have young children in your ceremony (i.e ring bearer, flower girls, etc.) you’ll definitely want to make sure they are there so they can practice beforehand.


Of course, each ceremony and each situation is different so the rehearsal may look a little different for each couple. I love the peace of mind that rehearsals give to brides and grooms. Rehearsals don’t have to be long and drawn out, they can be short and sweet if you like. Run through it, ask or answer any questions and move on to the fun and the food! You’ll have one less thing to worry about as you prepare to walk down the aisle.

If you need more information on the process and lay go for a rehearsal, email me. I have templates, suggestions, and maybe even an answer or two.


Wedding Rehearsal