September 14, 2020

Where to Start When Changing Wedding Plans

Wedding (noun): one of the happiest days of your life!


What no one tells you is that you’ll likely spend the months leading up to your wedding crying, worrying, and stressing about planning your perfect day. Wedding planning is intense, y’all!

And when things come up – be it an unexpected emergency, a death in the family, or a global pandemic – those feelings become even more extreme!
So what do you do when wedding plans change? Where do you even begin?






1. Give Yourself a Break.

Let me begin by reminding you that you are not alone in all of this. Your loving spouse, extended family, and your dedicated team of wedding providers are here to support you through this stressful experience.

So take a moment to pause. Mourn. Breathe. Meditate. Pray. Whatever you need to do for you. (Need some extra help about bridal self-care? Read my post)

Your perfect day isn’t gone forever. And let’s get one thing straight – it’s going to be nothing less than perfect, regardless. Plans change, and that’s life. Adjust, adapt, and move forward. (Where, you ask? Keep reading!)


2. To Postpone or To Pivot?

The biggest challenge when wedding plans change is figuring out what to do next.

At first glance that feels like an impossible task, but I ask you to consider the following questions before you continue to plan your perfect day:

  • What are your non-negotiables? Start there and work your way through the remainder of your plans.
  • Now that you know what you want, it’s time to consider what the remainder of your wedding team thinks. Speak with your guests, your family members, and your venue and vendors to see their preferences and plans moving forward.
  • Ask yourself: with everything that’s happened, does your original plan still feel like the right thing to do?
  • Do you want to keep your venue, vendors, and a majority of your original wedding plans in place? If so, you may need to consider postponing your wedding.
  • Can you get a refund from your venue and vendors if you do decide to postpone?
  • Does the original wedding date have some kind of significance?
  • Can you make another venue work? Have you considered other venues or layouts?


Still not sure?
How about a hybrid wedding?!

Let’s say, for example, that your original wedding date is a non-negotiable detail that you can’t change because it coincides with your anniversary. In that case, you might consider keeping your original date in place and holding a small, intimate ceremony with very close friends and family members instead. As for the remainder of your original guests, you’ll let them know that the official reception will be held at a later date when the timing feels a little more right.

In other words: marry now, party later! (Read extra steps about postponing your wedding from past blog posts here )


3. Research Alternatives

Now that the big details have been nailed down, it’s time to consider the remainder of your original wedding plans.

Even if you think you’ll be against it, I genuinely recommend that you explore other wedding alternatives to your original plans. You may not have considered an elopement before now, but in some cases, this setting can be the most fulfilling and meaningful for couples.

Whatever your situation, give some new alternatives a chance. Daydream a few different scenarios out and see which one fits best with your current situation.
And even if you still think your original plans could work, take the time to review each and every little detail (from party favors to seating arrangements and dance floor music) from your guest’s perspective to catch any awkward situations that might arise.


4. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Things are finally settling down and becoming clear again for you.

The time has come to let your family members and guests know what the new game plan is. Whether it’s a new “Save the Date” card, an updated wedding website, or a text message, you should let your guests know promptly and clearly that plans have changed.

Update your guests on the changes and adjustments you have made and give them a chance to ask questions and voice their concerns. While this is first and foremost YOUR day, it’s become ever more important to make sure your guests feel just as happy and comfortable on your big day.

It’s extremely important to keep communication lines open between yourself and your guests all the way up until the day of your wedding.


5. Above All, Remain Flexible

Life is unpredictable.

You should expect to encounter some more challenges and complications before your wedding. Rather than hoping for the best and relying on your one and only Plan B (because Plan A is long gone by now), you should put together an actionable Plan C and D just in case!

It’s better to be safe than sorry! (Totally overused, but totally applicable!)
And of course, do your best to make the most of this day, regardless of the changes. It might not be your first choice, but there is no reason it can’t still be the best day of your life.

It’s my duty to support you through this process and make sure you’re more than happy with the end result. If you’re still not sure how to go about adapting your original wedding plans, don’t hesitate to reach out!
After all – that’s what I’m here for!


photography by Map + Compass Photography 

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