Elopement (verb): the other kind of wedding.
Traditionally, an elopement is thought of as a secretive and secluded wedding ceremony without consent from the parents.
I’ll cut to the chase here. It’s the 21st Century. That’s not elopement anymore.
Nowadays, elopements are small, intimate, and extremely unique wedding ceremonies with only a few guests present: the officiant, groom and bride, and maybe parents and one or two close friends. In fact, anything around 10 or so guests is considered to be an elopement.
But it gets even more complex. Many people confuse an elopement with an intimate wedding.
Most notably, an intimate or micro wedding involves a few more guests than an elopement. For the sake of certainty, we’ll say anything more than 20 is an intimate wedding. And at a certain point, an intimate wedding may get too big and become a standard wedding.
An elopement ceremony and reception is more low-key, whereas an intimate wedding (and anything larger) will involve a bit more planning and coordination.
SO WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD SOMEONE CHOOSE TO ELOPE?
1. Huge Money Saver (And More $ Left For the Honeymoon!)
Look, your wedding is just one day of your life. It’s one of the most magical and special days, of course, but it’s just one day.
Why go into debt and blow your life savings (which you’ll eventually need for your home, kids, and unexpected emergencies) in just one day. And better yet – a wedding is meant to officiate and celebrate two individual’s love and commitment to each other. This wedding is for you – not your guests. Why spend $50,000 on that?
To top it all off, going for the elopement option leaves more room for other things: like an incredible honeymoon.
Your wedding? One day.
But your honeymoon? As long as you want it! Wherever you want it! Honeymoons are oftentimes a once in a lifetime opportunity for couples to travel and experience everything the world has to offer together. Why wouldn’t you put more money into your honeymoon?
2. Less Stress! (What More Could You Ask For?)
It’s no secret that weddings are one of the most stressful things you’ll ever have to plan out.
Elopements, due to their small size and lack of intricacy, allow you to take a step back from all of that. They’re really not hard to plan, and they allow for so much more personality, flexibility, and opportunity.
Better yet, they can an incredibly rewarding alternative for those in a rather unique situation.
Even though it’s 2020, there may still some family members and people in your life that don’t support you and your marriage to the person you love. So don’t invite them! Go get married to the one you love! Enjoy your day! Live your life!
Or maybe this isn’t your first rodeo. You did the big wedding 20 years ago. And you realized soon after that wedding really wasn’t worth all the hassle or money. You have someone new and better in your life, and you want to do it more authentically this time around. So you elope! It’s just you, your loved one, and your officiant. No fancy decorations, no overpriced outfits, and no needy family members. It’s you and your significant other’s day. End of story.
3. Elopement Allows For a More Personal Touch
You’re here because you’re not wanting to do anything extravagant or overpriced or stressful.
But that doesn’t mean you don’t want to have a little fun!
Many elopement ceremonies involve traveling to a unique destination or putting together a one-of-a-kind wedding theme that’s just more authentic to who you and your partner are.
Like this couple who embraced their love story and got married at Whataburger. (Yes, you read that right!)
In some cases, a traditional wedding just won’t cut it. You and your partner come from different backgrounds, and it’s important to you to embrace that. An elopement is the perfect way to celebrate both of your unique stories and bring them together in a one-of-a-kind elopement. I mean seriously, what better way to start your lives together?!
4. Destination Weddings
Again, you’re not one for tradition.
You want your special day to be… well, special! Why not go for a destination wedding!
Because of the nature of the destination wedding, a lot of your potential wedding guests may not be able to travel to see you on your special wedding day anyways. If a destination wedding is your dream, odds are you might also fall into the elopement category.
Not only are you getting married in the location of your dreams – you’re basically already on vacation! Any guests that are able to attend your destination will be too. That means the party starts immediately and lasts as long as you want. How about a wedding WEEK, y’all?!😍
5. It’s Environmentally Friendly
When you think about weddings, you don’t normally associate them with being environmentally friendly.
In fact, you’ve probably never even thought about any kind of wedding in terms of its environmental friendliness.
But the fact of the matter is, weddings are wasteful.
According to Wikipedia, an average wedding of about 150 guests produces between 400 and 600 pounds of trash. In one night.
An elopement eliminates that.
Better yet, elopements leave room for what matters most: starting a life together.
They’re small, simple, and no fuss.
Just a day for you and your partner, celebrating your love.
There’s genuinely nothing more magical than that!