As a Texas wedding planner I’m passionate about the great state of Texas and making sure your wedding is what you’ve always dreamed. I love old traditions and new customs and I especially enjoy when they can both come together on your special day.
With that said, there are a few traditions that I wish would just go away. These three Texas wedding traditions top my list:
1. Brides family pays for it all
This one seems pretty self explanatory and I, personally, would love to see this tradition become less common. Sometimes when the burden of paying falls on one family, everyone else unintentionally forfeits some of the creative control over the wedding itself and it goes to whoever is paying for it. That’s not what I want for your day, and I’m sure that’s not what you want either. I’m passionate about giving you and your fiance the wedding of your dreams and that gets a little complicated when many of the details require several stages of approval.
I’ve found that the day goes a little smoother —and the bride and groom are more satisfied with the outcome— when the cost is spread out between the couple and their families.
2. The dollar dance
Somehow 3+ awkward minutes of dancing with your great aunt’s sister’s son for a dollar just doesn’t seem fair. Sure, it can be a great way to make a little cash… but is it worth it? That’s up to you!
You may prefer adding a honeymoon fund to your registry so guests can contribute easily. If you still love the idea of collecting some cash but want to ditch that dollar dance, here are a few of my favorite alternatives:
If you want to incorporate a wedding money tree into your big day, make sure it’s not the focus as guests won’t want to feel pressured to give money, especially when they’ve likely already purchased a gift. Destination weddings (one of my favorite kinds to plan) are a great place to incorporate the money tree because transporting a lot of gifts home may be difficult and you can choose to have guests just give cash in lieu of gifts.
Remember, this is your day, and there’s nothing that says you have to incorporate this tradition at all if you don’t want to. Keep it true to who who are!
3.One word: barns. Is there a rule that says to have a Texas wedding it must be in a barn?
Don’t get me wrong, barns are beautiful, especially if they are a reflection of you and your hubby-to-be, but they shouldn't be the holy grail of Texas wedding tradition.
Texas boasts so many beautiful venues (like this Lucky Arrow Resort venue with yurts) and places to get married, and the options for finding something that suits your style are limitless. I can help with this! Ask me about some of my favorite spots and let's find the location of your dreams.
As your Texas wedding expert, and an enthusiast for adventure, I’m going to make sure your wedding is beautifully fun and unique, while still incorporating those tried-and-true traditions that you love.
Photos by Map + Compass Photography